I wouldn't think much of a couple aging 36 and 46, but a 21-year old (especially a guy... Regardless of even his opinion, I would not take his youth and time to grow away from him... I thought guys in their 20's were "immature" according to women ( I guess it''s different when SEX is involved) Most of those situations don't last cause when that 21year old sees a nice 18-22 year old walks by (especially if he's in college) it's curtains for the that older woman!
he needs to embrace his youth, its trials and tribulations; not to mention college and career choices... People need to experience as much of the menu life has to offer before they know what their favorite meal is... NO way I would date a 21 year old no matter how mature she "claims" to be. I put up with their relationship...could have so chosen someone more mature...
You know those girls who refuse to date anyone younger than they are, much less anyone their own age? ) And I obviously have the matching theory as to why to go along with it (naturally, it involves being the younger sister).
They have a specific, thought-out reasoning as to why they're only romantically compatible with guys who are older… Throughout my entire love life — or whatever you want to call what has been 23 years of going through men, some for longer than others — I have never so much as lusted after any guy who is younger than I am. Without going too much into my dating career, the main factor in all of my relationships — significant or otherwise — has always been the man's age.
When I remember who I was when I was 21 compared to who I am now, I see 2 different people.
Age is not just a number - with time, we grow emotionally and evolve as a person with the things we experience throughout the years. In the past, I've dated guys that young; but that's as far as it would go. She must really yearn for those old "college" days???
But if, as you say, there's chemistry (and another warning: this can often be nothing more than misunderstanding and wishful thinking on the part of the older guy), why not?Only difference is a 21-year-old will make her decision based purely on how fun and entertaining you are.A 31-year-old is much more discerning and needs to see more before she’ll say ‘yes.’ When I approach a 31-year-old at a bar, I do my best to demonstrate that I have value. She’s been in the workforce long enough to have dealt with professional adults, she’s probably making a decent living and she wants a man who can match her.Life is too short - and you only get one of them - so enjoy it in every way it offers itself to you both. But I never see anything past what it is - an affair of sorts.A person at 21 is in a different mind-frame then someone in their 30's... As we age, our experiences and growth change how we think and react to situations.