BPD has been described as having no "emotional skin".We're psychologically raw and exposed and as such we feel things, good and bad, very deeply.Because of this, the speed at which my emotions fluctuate is breathtaking, and they tend to be extremes of emotion, such as elation or utter despair.I have to work hard at managing and regulating my emotions.
Most real-life relationships with a partner who has BPD are not deadly. Whilst you've casually dismissed it as a minor disagreement and all but forgotten about it, we're worrying that you hate us and will never speak to us again.So please, stay awake long enough to text us back and tell us it's OK.That person experiencing pain will respond in genius ways such as dissociative coping, only to have others interpret this protective response as angry and manipulative. The best way to describe it would be like this: When you're really high on marijuana, and your hands don't feel like they're yours, or you'll say something and you're like, Did I just say that? It was very frightening, and doctors kept saying it was depression." —Royal Cumings "Most people with BPD that I've met are very gentle souls; they're very kind people.If our community valued sensitivity, and understood our responses to pain, we could enjoy life; we'd want to be present for it." —Mary Hofert Flaherty "Depersonalization is basically a defense mechanism, usually after some kind of trauma, but when you get chronic depersonalization — like I did — you get caught in that state for months. It's a sensitive brain combined with either trauma or invalidation.