—Boys learn to chase girls in high school and college.
Those early teen experiences shape much of the way men think about relationships.
Thus, if you have preconceived notions about gorgeous people, rich people, short people, gay people, Irish people, etc – those notions probably came from SOMEWHERE. Jewish people like playing Twister on the lawn is a fabrication. So there’s the stereotype of the forty-something bachelor – and it’s a valid one. (Hey, all of us want to think that about ourselves – let’s just say for argument’s sake that it’s true!
Jewish people are often highly educated and highly neurotic is not. ) So now you’re faced with this very real dilemma – is this man a victim of circumstance, or is he the common denominator in all of his relationship failures?
For many men, they find themselves married, with children, a job and the game is over.
But for other men, those who have either not been married by their 40s or are facing a post divorce life in their 40s, there’s a lot of good news that they need to know about.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder - so ladies, please don't think you need to be some perfect-looking little hottie in order to snag a good midlife bachelor - no.
On occasion, I like to look at Craigslist, which I consider to be one of the great Internet success stories of our time.
Not only is it great for browsing classifieds (which is where I found not only a great end table set, but the wonderful home where I now live), but it’s also fantastic for other nuggets of human interest, like personals, jobs, and humor.
I’m currently speaking with a guy from Yahoo personals, he’s 42 and still single, never been engaged… We have been talking for the past month and a half via the phone, I’m in Minneapolis, and he’s in Chicago. I just told him that it’s wild we have great chemistry but we could meet in person and realize that we are not physically each other’s type.
We have great long conversations, many that last 5 hours long, he’s commented how great our conversations are. To me, as naive as I am, I’d like to think he is not a “player” trying to work me over because we have these long conversations with a lot of depth to them. Please give me some perspective and advice on this situation. All of those things are likely contributing factors as to why a man might be 42 and never married.