It would save a lot of headaches and heartache, wouldn't it? This kind of "first impression" information is very helpful as you think about who you will or won't consider dating. Not exactly the kind of people you want to trust with your self-image or your reputation. Are you headed in the same general direction in life?
While you can't predict the future, you can make choices that will help guide you to relationships that are both exciting and honoring to God. As you think through potential dates, ask yourself these questions: 1. "Don't judge a book by its cover." That's how the old saying goes. (For instance: You value good grades and plan to attend college; your potential date regularly cuts classes and has no plans for life after graduation.) Do they have decent standards when it comes to the movies and TV shows they watch?
You may be thinking, Not a good dating rule to live by, especially when it comes to values, moral standards and personal beliefs. It's good to keep in mind that a promise breaker can quickly become a heartbreaker, too.
Look, we don’t all fall into our dream careers right away, but you don’t get where you want to be without realistic ambition and a good work ethic.True, first impressions aren't totally accurate. But until you get to know a person, you must depend on first impressions. Are they committed, growing Christians who seek to live what they believe? If they've been in a serious dating relationship before, did they flirt with others or cheat on the person they were dating? Ever been around a girl who can't do anything but put down her boyfriend?We know that sounds crazy, but there’s a method to the madness.Sure, sometimes it’s hard to come up with questions that don’t sound straight out of a job interview. If it turns out you’re dealing with a genuine sociopath, a run-of-the-mill heartbreaker or a primary psychopath like Sherlock Holmes (apparently), these questions should bring out the warning signs.