I think these attitudes are mostly for the best, though I think I would seek to modify them in some ways.
In this post, I want to focus in on how false modesty, an emotion I think people sometimes develop as a corrective against arrogance, can actually become a counter-productive kind of With seemingly any power comes the power to hurt.
Whether it's an individual who worries about the consequences of speaking up at work or in a close relationship, a family cowed by a scary parent, a business fixated on threats instead of opportunities, or a country that's routinely told it's under "Threat Level Orange" - it's the same human brain that reacts in all cases.
This vulnerability to feeling threatened has effects at many levels, ranging from individuals, couples, and families to schoolyards, organizations, and nations.
The parts of the book that I found of particular value were the sections that covered: Over control can become an issue if we are not aware of how we are coming across to others.
On-the-other-hand, we can also become victims of those in our lives that refuse to compromise or adapt to the considerations of our needs.
A problem arises however, if we do not know how to use our inner determination.
When does our assertiveness and strength of mind begin to be misinterpreted by others as aggressiveness and, what can we do about it?