The users of the secret-sharing app, Whisper, have revealed their own experiences of being a cougar; recounting both the threat - or reality - of being dumped, and the joys of feeling sexy and 'in control'.'My cub left me...I feel so Demi Moore,' a woman posted, in reference to Ms Moore's doomed relationship with fellow actor Ashton Kutcher, who was 15 years her junior when their eight-year relationship crumbled in 2011.And then you, the 36-year-old woman, post your profile, and what happens? It doesn’t stop older men from writing, but at least you don’t have to explain yourself to a man who doesn’t want to hear your perfectly valid explanation. But you must understand that any woman you desire online has choices. She can go out with a cute, successful man who is 35. To find out who IS interested, try Match.com’s Reverse Match.You get BOMBARDED by emails from fifty and sixty something Baby Boomers looking to trade up in the world. Yet these men keep on writing – talking about how they’re young for their age, how they’d love to have children, how they have everything in life except a good younger woman. Understand, Dale, there is nothing wrong with you being attracted to a fertile and youthful woman in her 30’s. Instead of searching through hundreds of thirtysomething women who wouldn’t give you a second look, Reverse Match shows you who IS open to dating a 56-year-old man.Turns out, there’s lots to love about women of a certain age.Men in their 20s date women over 30 because:“They understand better how to interact in a relationship.”Men in their 40s add:“Women over 30 have stopped putting metal through their lips and tongues which makes it easier to kiss them.Now you’re going to get the same song and dance as every other guy who has written to complain about women on the Internet. So let’s say you’re a 36-year-old woman, entering the prime of your life. Yeah, 45 is a little old, you say, but you want to be open-minded. It’s that you’re failing to recognize what most younger women want. At least you know that a woman on Millionaire Match might be more willing to sacrifice youth for security.
Their desire to be with men 15-20 years their senior means they are looking for someone to take care of them both financially and personally.
(Then again, just because a guy wants to date a younger girl, doesn't necessarily mean she wants to date him!
)As a woman over 30, I decided to try to get to the bottom of this conundrum by asking a series of straight, unmarried men in their 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s to find out why some actually prefer to date “older” women.
In the spirit of Sex and the City's Samantha Jones (pictured) a woman admitted she is drawn to younger men because they don't require as much commitment and she has 'complete control over the relationship''On his part, it's difficult falling for a woman who's past child-bearing age and then later on realising you do want children after all and it's not possible to have them with her,' Tracey points out.
How does a 56 year old man find a good younger woman that would be interested in marriage and willing to have children by him? Most good sites line me up with the 50 year olds and most 36 year olds tend to think I’m a dirty old man.