In studying adolescent development, adolescence can be defined biologically, as the physical transition marked by the onset of puberty and the termination of physical growth; cognitively, as changes in the ability to think abstractly and multi-dimensionally; or socially, as a period of preparation for adult roles.Major pubertal and biological changes include changes to the sex organs, height, weight, and muscle mass, as well as major changes in brain structure and organization.Some parents of teenagers have to deal with the out-of-control behaviors in which teens engage.
Adolescence is usually accompanied by an increased independence allowed by the parents or legal guardians, including less supervision as compared to preadolescence.
Over the next week, two of my boys have birthdays that end in “teen.” Today, Jonah stepped fresh and eager into his thirteenth year. I feel like I finally understand why I had to go through the baby and toddler years: This is the reward. Our boys need to know what is absolutely ok, and what is absolutely not.
Next Saturday, Josiah will swagger his way into fifteen. I mean, I love my kids at every stage, but certainly some years nearly killed me. So…I’ve been thinking a lot about these years–and how be the mom they need right now. Some days they just need to figure out what feels right. They may resist rules, but deep down they feel safe when there are clear-cut rules without exceptions. I’m not talking about phony, contrived encouragement ( Our kids are watching us.
Be patient, and try different times and places until you figure it out. No more knock-knock jokes or bad made-up jokes that never seem to come to a conclusion. There’s hardly anything like the bond of a good laugh with my boys. They’ll get insecure and do stupid things because of it. You are their greatest resource they have, and they need your direction. ) The world will yell and scream all kinds of negatives to your son. You will never regret making sacrifices or adjustments so that you can be present for your children when they need you.
When one of my boys come out laughing and want me to watch a funny Vine or You Tube Video, I drop everything for it. They are going to mess up so much you’ll wonder where you went wrong. Consequences may be in order, but so is a whole lot of grace. Keep it relevant, and as brief as possible, but when you see them facing forks in the road, go ahead and speak some good solid words of advice to them. And the thing with parenting is–you’re never really sure when they’ll need you. I should add here that my husband and I are Christians, and our faith is woven into every item I listed above.